Interview with Asexual Psychic Claudia
The asexual world is a very unknown and mystical place for most people. A lot of people don’t quite understand what an asexual is and more over many don’t know they are asexual people. I implore you to uncover the shameful secrecy that asexual individuals know, because of the strict societal judgments imposed on those who are different than the majority. The same judgments imposed on gays, lesbians, bisexuals, those who don’t want to get married and those who don’t follow a certain religious belief system.
Instead of rumors, judging or guessing you can find out what an asexual person is. Might you have been one in the past? Are you one now? Can it become your future? Inquiring minds will want to know.
Claudia gives us a bit of insights into the spiritual realm of an asexual person. She gives some facts along with her own beliefs and opinions giving people a place to start exploring. As a sex psychic I am interested in every aspect of sexuality that can help, heal; give us a basic understanding of our fellow man or woman and give us an insight into ourselves.
Learn about asexuals for those that don’t know: http://tigerbeatdown.com/2011/04/13/life-among-the-one-percent/
Facebook page for a documentary being made about: Asexuals:http://www.facebook.com/pages/Asexuality-The-Making-of-a-Movement/45555386712
Enter Claudia’s World
I’ve never talked about asexuality in a public forum before, however the older I get, and the more connected with myself I become, in hindsight, I can see that I’ve always been asexual. The topic is important to me in the same way a queer person finds importance in the discovery of their sexuality and the way it relates to society and where they fit into the world. I first came out as a lesbian in my early 20’s; however I explored relationships with women for a period of years; and discovered that I am not drawn to or fulfilled by the sexual aspects of a relationship with women OR with men. There are many ways to connect with someone. You can talk in an authentic way with them, meditate with them, laugh together, show affection such as hugging, etc; sex has never made me feel more spiritually connected to someone than those other activities have.
I am celibate not for spiritual reasons, but because I am asexual and have no desire to have sex. However I do feel that being true to who I am is what my spirituality is about on a fundamental level. What works for me obviously does not work for many people, and everyone must find their own path.
I have noticed that sex is not about a real spiritual connection for many people. The mind is the most active sexual organ, and I have seen that many people are in sexual relationships with people based on a fantasy of who the other person is, or what the role of that other person could be in their lives. Their attraction to the other person may have very little to do with who the person is spiritually, mentally or emotionally. They may be attracted to the person’s physical appearance, but that is superficial and about lust. Having sex based on physical attraction is not about connecting to who that person really is. Part of physical attraction can come from hormones and chemistry which is produced by the mind, not by that other person. The mind can be tricked by many things and can easily cause a person to fall in ‘love’ based on an idea or a fantasy about who someone else is.
To me, having sex based on physical attraction is not the most authentic way to spiritually connect with someone. I don’t believe that people connect spiritually through sex, however I believe that connecting to another person physically through sex can enhance the spiritual connection for some people, since bringing the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual aspects together causes the connection to feel more ‘complete.’ Not everyone in the world has the same sexual drives and needs though, and what is healthy for one person may not be what is authentic and healthy for someone else. Some people do not need to have sex in order to be complete within themselves and in their relationships with others.
I think there will be a lot of judgment from people when they hear about this, because a lot of people get defensive when it comes to their own lifestyle choices, and anything that provides an alternative to their way of life will be rejected to protect their own ideas about sex. Homosexuals have had the same issue with people judging them rather than understanding them. Of course there are open-minded people out there as well, and those are the people I’d like to share my story with.
What is your take on Aliens? I ask this, because there are people who believe they are reincarnated Alien beings. Some of the most notable traits of these people are detached emotions, no need for sexual contact and a hard time relating to humans beings and the traditional family dynamic. Are these things you have experienced and have you ever thought about where your soul or spirit may have originated?
In my opinion, there is much more going on in the Universe than we humans can know for sure. I don’t pay attention to past lives, because I believe in staying in the present and taking one lifetime at a time. In this lifetime, I have never really speculated much about Aliens. I believe they exist yet I’ve not personally had contact with one that I know of, and I haven’t gone out seeking Alien contact. I believe in God, which can be referred to as Divine Love, a Higher Power, Creative Intelligence, etc. and that is the source that ultimately we all stem from, and that’s what I pay attention to, while not discounting aliens.
I’ve always had a wide circle of friends and people in my life that I love deeply. Growing up all my closest friends were from different cultures and backgrounds, and I always could find common ground with just about anyone. In my work I have to be able to empathize with all kinds of people who have lifestyle choices that are different than mine. So even though I am asexual, I still relate to sexual people whether straight or gay. We all come from the same source and most of us have similar emotional makeups. Although I am not interested in sex, I still feel deep emotions, just as deep as any sexual person does.
Have you ever suspected any celebrities to be asexual? If so whom?
I believe I once heard Lady Gaga say she wasn’t really interested in sex, although her exact wording escapes me now. At other times she has expressed being very sexual. I can imagine that she probably has periods of asexuality, because her creativity, showmanship and performance is where she channels her kundalini energy and for her, that creative process can be more fulfilling than sexual acts. I wouldn’t peg her as a full time Asexual though, and I don’t pay enough attention to celebrities to confidently peg one as asexual. I have found myself getting a spiritual release in my creative expression which is similar to a release that is experienced through sexual means. Creative expression is very fulfilling for me, much more fulfilling than sex has ever been.
Being a psychic do you ever pick up on clients that are asexual?
Oh yes! I have read for more than a few clients who are asexual, one of them is a regular. She still has deep emotions for her special someone, she just has no desire for sex.
How can you help an asexual person as a psychic?
I can help them as I help any other client, by tuning in to their life concerns and relaying helpful information that comes to me. Asexuality is not a choice, as celibacy is, nor is it a disease that needs to be cured, anymore than being homosexual is a disease that needs to be cured. Asexuality is a real orientation although it is not fully recognized as one in society yet.
Are their support groups or help for those who are asexual and hiding it from themselves or others?
I would recommend visiting the AVEN website to learn more about asexuality or to find support.